Before thinking about how to date: Ask yourself the most important dating question first:

Why are you going on a date?

Then, after you have answered yourself honestly, seek an honest answer to the second question:

Why is the other person going on a date with you?

Some people are not honest. Sometimes people are not even honest with themselves. They may tell you that they are seeking a relationship simply to hookup. They may be seeking a hookup but are secretly looking for a longer term relationship. There are also many other possibilities and you should find your truth.

Always remember that there are only two reasons to go on a date:

  1. Going on a first date looking to hookup
  2. Going on a first date searching for relationships

How To Date, Step by step (even for dummies)

Collecting information and making decisions

Start by first collecting information about you. What options do you have? What do you want to do? How would you like to do this?

Online dating options

Some geographic areas like LA (CA) has many different and functional LOCAL online dating websites (local sites with lots of different and real local users) – If your area has some functional sites, looking for matches online could be useful. Check for functional online dating sites, local matchmakers and local singles sites in our Dating Websites listing section (We are constantly removing and adding sites, please consider helping us by giving us your feedback?)

Here is a list of the top 15 US dating sites (also with what the site is best used for in our opinion)

Offline Dating Options

If you are looking for more than a hookup, you also have many other options and possibilities. Examples are: Singles Events, Speed Dating Events, Hangouts, Public spaces (parks, clubs, hiking trails, general events and more)

Hookups are very easy to start and do online but relationships and finding your soulmate is quite a different thing and may require a lot of effort. You also need to ask yourself quite a few questions (be sure to answer yourself as honestly as you can)

Here is a list of some more obvious initial questions:

  • How important is it to you to find someone within a hundred mile radius (or less) from where you are?
  • How ready are you and what exactly are you ready for?
  • Do you know what you are looking for? (So you can know when you find it!)
  • Made a dating plan yet?