The main use and goal of flirty banter is to have fun. At the same time it also reveals things about you and you also learn about the other person. Reactions to whatever you say gives you instant feedback about the VIBE and the level of the VIBE, this helps you to make your own decisions. Flirty banter is a form of information gathering as much as it is the giving of information and joy!

Pick up lines could also be flirty, some are overused. Common examples are “is it hot in here? or is it only you”

Reaction to something flirty, like a smile, laughter or a quick comeback gives you instant feedback about the other person. As a bonus, you also get a direction for your next bit of banter. For a great positive vibe type feedback (if you are quite keen yourself), then the path is open to level up to step into the vibe. For lukewarm or more negative type responses, you either have to step up your game or think about stepping out.

When thinking about flirty banter always think about fun. Think about easy, light and generic.

Four top tips for getting your flirty banter on

Look at the other person. Which physical characteristic immediately stands out to you? For example if it is a nose: You could say something simple and easy like: “Wow, you have such a nice nose” (or any version of that). Complimenting the other person is always a safe bet, more so if the compliment it is also actually the truth. If you are in an online chat and you do not even know if you are being cat fished, you could react to the other persons name and compliment that. There is always an easy and true compliment to give.

Prepare in advance: Being flirty and building on the vibe may always hit a dead spot, so have a few backup banters saved up in advance! (You can make flirty banter part of your dating plan?)

Confidence: Confidence is always picked up on and has a multiplier effect on effective banter

Be yourself, be happy and do you!

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Many dating advice sites will tell you that trust is earned and should not just be given. Some dating advice articles even provide you with tools and methods to manage your trust and how you give trust. But the ugly truth about trust is hardly ever spoken of.

If you are attractive you receive more initial trust.

Good looking, attractive people instantly receive more trust from others.

You give hot people more initial trust than you would to non hot people. We all do exactly the same thing. If your attraction is older grey haired people, you will give an average Gen Z (born: 1997-2012) far less initial “free” trust than you would give to an average Gen X (born: 1965 -1980). Similarly if you consider Gen Z as HOT, then the average Gen X will automagically get less initial trust.

In general generalization is always challenging, but in the case of the ugly truth about trust, I would venture that more than two thirds of us do give more initial trust to hotness.

Initial physical attraction is also a plus on the amount of free initial trust we give others. If you are physically attracted to someone you just give them more initial trust.

Of course this does not mean that you will not trust ugly people, or people you do not consider as attractive, but rather that less attractive people have to work a bit harder to squeeze for every bit of trust.

Any RED FLAGS reduces the amount of trust given to you.

Lets say you consider yourself a 5 (FIVE) and you consider that the person you are going to meet for the first time is an 8 (EIGHT) Here are a few TOP tips for you to increase the initial amount of free trust you may be given by the EIGHT:

• Make sure you are neat, tidy, clean and that you smell great! Smell is often overlooked, but a great smell can easily raise you from a FIVE to a SIX!

• Make sure that you look your best self, in all aspects.

• Make sure that you are dressed to the 9’s!

• Smile! – Smiles are under rated, just by smiling you can easily add half a point to your hotness scale!

• Be a winner! Walk like a winner, act like a winner. Your confidence could also add half a point to your overall first impression hotness

To read more about the basics of dating (or dating basics) please start with how to date

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On your first date you will already know if there is chemistry or at least the potential of chemistry between you (from your side at least). On the first date you should also find out if they also feel that there is a vibe and if there is going to be a second date.

You can also prepare for your dates by making a dating plan  suited to the person you have decided to go on a date with

There are three things that you and the other person should figure out

1. Physical attraction, Vibe/Vibing:

Do you and the other person vibe?

– (It is a yes or a no – and you will know the answer for yourself

– finding out what the other person thinks should not take longer than the first or second date)

2. Availability:

Are you and the other person both available and ready for a relationship?

– (It is a yes or a no for yourself

– Finding out about the other person can take two or more dates)

3. Sustainability:

Do you and the other person have similar beliefs, morals and other core values?

(Can you be best friends?

– This also is a yes or no thing but this can take four or more dates to establish)

With yourself honesty is the best policy but be careful not to reveal too much about yourself to others until they have proven that they are deserving of your trust.

Always know and understand that feelings can change, something trivial can trigger a reaction and change how you feel or how the other person feels and anything can happen at any time.

Most importantly always have fun, be real and be safe!

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